Sunday, December 4, 2016

What is love?

Scientists come up with a way to describe love.
http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm

Stage 1: Lust
You want to take off each other clothes and be sticky and sweaty

Stage 2: Attraction
The blind stage, everything about your new love is perfect

Stage 3: Attachment
You grew attached to whoever your hormones ask you to.

There are no Stage 4, stage 5 or 6

If life is that simple.

My version:
Stage 4: Resentment
When your hormones wear-off and now you are wondering why are you have to explains your whereabout to this guy. Why is he ignoring you?
There must be a better guy out there

Stage 5: Destruction
You behaved in a certain way to makes fights and arguements possible.
You might also participate in Stage 1 with another person

Love... Sucks...

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Replying Messages - The courtesy

Living in a digital ages, we are bombarded by endless information. With times, it might get a little irritating, but oddly addictive.

Working in a team that consists on all tech-savvy people, we still have to accepts that if we uses apps like Whatsapp to send out any notices, we should still followed up by an email, else, it is totally acceptable if the message get ignore, completely.

 I sometimes need to cascade information, and I would add, "let me know if you received this" still no replies.

Is it too much to get a reply? I mean when I see you, you are constantly on your phone.

Same things in a relationship.

How should I felt, if you told me:"I do not want the obligation of having to reply the message." You knows how it sound?  It sound like, :"Hey, I do not value our relationship enough to have to go through the trouble to say something back, so suck it up or leave it!"

Were I over-reacting ?

I do not think so.

For me, it is a courtesy to reply messages, I sometimes do forget, because I received a tons of messages daily, but I would always try to reply, just so the sender know, that their message is being acknowledge, this is so logical and standard to me.


Even just a good morning, or good night, or even a "like", or a "noted"....

No it is not cool to let the blue tick do the job, it is even less cool to turned it off.
If you have to live like you are afraid of being accused of ignoring someone, therefore, you turn off the blue tick just so you can ignore someone, you should reconsider who you should mingle around with.

Personally, I found wechat is so fun... You can comments, text, call... Even recalled a message.

There are no blue tick, our friendship / relationship is based on our own courtesy to reply, and responds.
It is a courtesy to reply.
It is also a courtesy to gives enough time for someone to reply.

When is really urgent, call.

Life should be simple, and beautiful.